Dear Pro-Gay Christian Friend
[Response to the letter Dear Non-Affirming Christian]
Dear Pro-Gay Christian Friend,
Thank you for taking the time to write me. Sadly, it seems you
misunderstand why I met with you for coffee. Please let me explain my motives
by defining the words in my salutation above. Would this be too terrible a way
to go about it?
Let’s start with ‘friend’ shall we? You rightly question
this term as an accurate description of our relationship. For now, let's simply
say I mean it as an expression of goodwill.
But we will return to it again at the end of the letter.
Then there's this term, 'pro-gay'. By this, I don't mean your
personal sexual urges. There have historically been―and are today―countless
godly leaders in the church who have deep sexual and romantic attractions to
people of the same gender. In spite of their desires, they remain celibate and teach
orthodox views of gender and marriage. In your letter, you repeatedly refer to me
as a ‘non-affirming Christian’, but I
affirm these people and what they teach.
What I do mean by 'pro-gay' is the teaching you now
promote through personal conversations and social media. The articles you
share, the comments you leave, and the blogs you write all teach that active
sex between two people of the same gender is acceptable to the God of the
Bible. It’s not that you are merely wrestling with questions. You promote a
particularly Western, 21st Century view of sexuality that is counter to what
God's people have historically believed and faithfully taught for millennia by
affirming sexual activity outside the orthodox understanding of marriage.
Now, this wouldn’t be a
problem if you were one of my non-Christian family members or friends that hold
to this view. I see this teaching appear in memes and sound bites from them
every day. But you do all this while naming Christ. That's different. Paul
makes this distinction in 1 Cor 5,
‘I have told you to avoid sexually
immoral people, but I didn’t mean the immoral of this world. You would have to
leave the world for that! I mean anyone who calls themselves a believer and
does so. Avoid them! I should only judge those in the church, not those outside
the church.’
And this is where
we come to the third term in my salutation, ‘Christian’. How do you define this? I’m sure you are aware that for
over 98% of Christian history the idea that our faith is in any way compatible
with homosexual practice would’ve been unthinkable. ‘Pro-Gay Christian’ would’ve seemed as outrageous a term as, ‘pro-thievery Christian’ or ‘pro-pornography Christian’.
And this is why it is sad just
how profoundly you misunderstood our coffee date. Your letter suggests that I
met you to garner acceptance points with the cool kids. That’s an unfortunate
interpretation. Rather, I wanted to warn you that you’re in risk of rejection
from the only One whose opinion actually matters.
Not only did your
letter contain many strawmen misrepresentations of what Christians actually
believe but some of the articles you share on social media refer to Christians
as ‘homophobes’ and ‘haters’ for simply believing what
Christians have almost always believed―that marriage is a sacramental covenant
between a man and a woman. Even in your letter to me, you refer to this aspect
of Christian faith as a ‘murderer’. I
expect such hostile pejoratives and misrepresentations from the world around
me. I don’t expect that from someone who names Christ.
By being willing
to ‘hear your story’ (as you say in
your letter) you imply that I was disingenuous and only wanted to use you for
some insincere end, to gain social capital. No. I was trying to give you every
possible chance to explain why you would be promoting an ideology that is an
enemy to our faith. I was hoping against hope that you had somehow
misunderstood the issue. But as you explained over your latte how you now see
the Bible as a ‘general guide and not as
a strict rulebook’ it became clear
that you understood the issues just fine.
In Revelation chapter two,
Jesus speaks of a woman in Thyatira who is promoting an ideology of sexual
immorality in his name. He gives her time to repent but, if she does not, he promises
to remove her harshly. I care for you and don’t want you to come under judgement.
That’s why I wanted to meet―to plead with you. But all I heard from you were
the same lines I hear from my non-Christian friends every single day. I was
looking at you as a person, but all I heard from your mouth was the spirit of
this age.
You said that you
cannot be my ‘gay Christian friend’.
Sadly, I must now return the favour and say that I can’t be your orthodox Christian friend. At least not
'friend' in the classical sense of the word. And it is not because of your
sexual desires. If you had doubts, that would be fine. We could talk. If you
were one of my unbelieving family member or friends that happen to be gay,
there would be no problem. If you were same-sex
attracted, that would be fine too. I would never reject you on the basis of
something you can’t control.
But you are going public with fake teaching that
promotes immorality and openly acting out in sinful, sexual behaviour. I must now
obey Scripture and distance myself from you for the sake of those in the church
that you are trying to influence.
But if you ever want to really
talk again, if you want to reconsider your ways, the light is always on for you.
You repeatedly refer to me in
your letter as ‘non-affirming’. I’ll
accept that label, but so must you. We are just non-affirming about different
things. You won't affirm Christian sexual orthodoxy. I won't affirm your
attempt to baptise buggery.
-Joshua
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Good stuff, again. And undoubtedly unpopular too!
ReplyDeleteThe only time Jesus appeared to get violently angry was with the Temple money-changers. Jesus was able to eat with crooks like this at other times. What angered him in the Temple was that they were desecrating the holy temple.
ReplyDeleteOur bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit. Our Western culture has made incontinent sexuality into a basic human right. We have a low view of sexuality and are incapable of understanding the high view of sex taught in the bible.
"You promote a particularly Western, 21st Century view of sexuality that is counter to what God's people have historically believed and faithfully taught for millennia for by affirming sexual activity outside the Orthodox understanding of marriage."
ReplyDeleteThere lies the central tenet of your argument and it is utterly nonsensical.
Do you really believe that it is homosexuality that does that?
Heterosexuals have been affirming sexual activity outside the Orthodox understanding of marriage since well before Jesus yet you place it squarely on the homosexuals.
Pure hypocrisy and deliberate blindness to the multitude of heterosexual sinning.
Motes and planks.
Stop preaching what your ardent followers want to hear as they exercise their hatred and start preaching the truth.
Not sure you've actually grasped the context in what Josh has written?
DeleteDoes he not follow the comment you have highlighted with a quotation of Pauls from 1st Cor ch 5?.... that's not "Pure hypocrisy and deliberate blindness to the multitude of heterosexual sinning."
That's condemning all sinful sexual activity regardless of who are the participants.... hardly "hypocrisy"
Surely that passage confirms the position Josh is advocating?
Nowhere in the article do I read that he is solely blaming Homosexuals
Heartbreaking but biblical. Those were my immediate thoughts (https://strengthofhismight.wordpress.com/2018/01/11/jones-dear-pro-gay-christian-friend/). Thank you for writing this defense of the “non-affirming” position.
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