Undivided: A Review of Vicky Beeching's New Book
FOR THOSE WHO DON'T know, Vicky Beeching is a former Evangelical worship
leader from the UK who came out in 2015 as being gay and in support of 'same-sex marriage'. Those who share her views see her as a reformer within the
church. Those who disagree with her views see her as a misleading teacher.
Her
book ‘Undivided’ came out this week.
Because my book review will be mostly from a place of disagreement, I wish to
say a sympathetic word to begin with: she has been through a rough
time. Beeching has been in the unfortunate position
of carrying a secret and feeling unable to share it―the result was a sickening
sense of shame which crippled her. Anyone who cannot read her book and feel some compassion for her is a rock―even if they disagree with what she is trying to
argue.
Beeching’s struggle is genuine. As a young person, she had same-sex
attraction (SSA) and didn’t feel she could talk to anyone about it. That is
tragic regardless of how she now chooses to interpret these events in terms of Christian
doctrine.
A Deconversion Tale
In some ways, Beeching’s book is not unique. In the last few years, a
sort of cottage industry has been built up on the foundation of quasi-deconversion
stories. These tales involve various Christians―usually (former) Evangelicals
or Catholics―recounting how they left a historic or orthodox understanding of
the Christian faith, for something more in keeping with modern attitudes.
Feminism and LGBT world views are often the topic upon which the change is
based. It’s not that they don’t identify as Christians anymore. They do. But
they renounce certain historic Christian doctrines that many in the church feel
are quite central to being a Christian.
Surprised at Trolls?
In her book, Beeching expresses shock at the fact she gets a lot of push
back for challenging the historic understanding of marriage. In this manner, her book
is similar to other deconversion tales and it is an element that puzzles
me. Really? What should we expect when we challenge something so central and
historically important to people of a faith community? A welcome mat? She
mentions all the negative social media comments she gets. To her credit, she
doesn’t play the ‘victim card’ to the same degree that some others in her
position have―though at times it seems she comes close to doing so.
Beeching makes much of the
trolling she has received as if something strange has happened. Beeching’s network
is substantial. Her Twitter platform is a substaintial 66k followers, yet even my more modest account of 20k gets plenty of trolls. A few
recent comments on my tweets and blog articles include:
‘This is the most simplistic piece of writing I’ve seen in a long
time.’
‘You’re teachings are dangerous.’[sic]
‘You are an out and out misogynist and false witness.’
‘When will you ever stop talking crap about things you have absolutely
no understanding of?’
But I'm sticking my head out and addressing controversial topics. I expect no different. I'm in no way a victim.
The difference between a true
reformer and a false teacher is a matter of direction: one is taking us
towards greater faithfulness to Scripture and the other is taking us further away
from it. But both must expect to wade through plenty of reproach in order to
get to their destination. Let no one who wants to bring about significant change
be shocked to find they must wade through the swamps of toxic opinion.
Your Orientation or Your Teaching?
Beeching
writes about her coming out, ‘People I’d
known my entire life suddenly saw me as different because my orientation did
not match theirs.’ But is this really the case with the UK church? Do we reject for teachers for their orientation? Or, because of what they affirm
the nature of marriage to be? We have respected leaders such as Sam Allberry
and prophetic voices like David Bennett who both experience same-sex attraction.
Most believers do not reject others simply for having a different 'orientation'. We reject (or should) public teachers who declare that marriage can be between two people of
the same gender.
Her Arguments
The book is largely her memoirs.
Many of these, the account of her American friend’s attempted suicide in
particular, are very emotive. But the book is also peppered with arguments
seeking to persuade us of the compatibility of homosexual acts with Christian
teaching. She often uses ‘trajectory arguments’―the belief that the church,
over time, is progressing in its understanding of what the Bible teaches and
what God desires of us.
These are not new, but it’s fair of her to point out
that some issues, like slavery, which many people thought were clear, were not so clear upon
closer examination (a truth that cuts both ways). If her only point was that we
need a bit of hermeneutical humility from time to time, I would ‘amen’ her. But it's not.
Beeching gives many citations
(like a good Oxford grad) of Christians in the past who have had different
views on issues like slavery and women’s suffrage (Galileo’s name was even
invoked). Like most others who have used this line of reasoning, Beeching tries
to lead us to the conclusion that we are progressing in our understanding of
the Bible and that, given enough time, we too will soon accept ‘gay marriage’
just like most of us oppose slavery and (some) think it’s perfectly fine for women to
be ordained ministers. But such arguments are not new and many of us who have
heard them before remain unconvinced―both in terms of the idea of ‘progressive understanding’
in general and the comparison between slavery and gay marriage in particular.
There are other arguments she
recounts, such as the supposed lack of clarity of the Greek word ‘arsenokoites’ for homosexuality, but
there is really nothing new here. She uses an ‘inclusive hermeneutic’ to do an
exposition of Acts 10 and 15 (comparing gay identity to circumcision). She writes, ‘Just as the Gentiles could fully join God’s
family, now LGBT people could too.’ Just as non-kosher food is now sanctified,
now gay sex is ‘clean and holy’.
And perhaps this will disappoint
some on both sides of the debate: Beeching gives us nothing new in terms of
theological argument. If you have been following the debate of LGBT ideology in
the church, then it is only her story, not her arguments, that will be new to
you. These arguments have been dealt with in countless academic debates
already and found wanting. I respect the honesty of queer theologian Pim Pronk who, after
acknowledging various arguments that Beeching attempts, confesses in his book Against Nature?, ‘To sum up: wherever homosexual intercourse is mentioned in Scripture,
it is condemned. With reference to it
the NT adds no arguments to those of the OT.
Rejection is a foregone conclusion.’ Pronk goes on to argue for
acceptance of homosexual acts―just not on the basis of the Bible. He
makes no pretences of having an Evangelical view of Scripture.
Ex-Gay?
About 2/3 through the book the
tone shifts and we see a more militant Beeching. Through her memoirs she seemed
to be asking for understanding for her journey. But when it comes to the subject
of Christians who have left behind them a gay lifestyle, the tone shifts. She seems
dismissive of all of those who claim to have had genuine change in their lives―not
only in terms in regards to sexual desires―but sexual practice as well.
I think Beeching is smart, so I’m
not going to let her off the hook so easy for conflating issues like ‘SSA’, and
‘Ex-Gay’. They are nowhere near the same things. She writes, ‘Conversion therapy, reparative therapy, or
even just prayer ministry for people with SSA. The goal was the same; either to
change someone’s orientation or to reinforce their need to reject their
attractions and stay single.’ Those are two very different things. Implying that conversion therapy is comparable
to someone who identifies as a ‘celibate gay Christian’ who denies acting on their
sexual desires in order to honour Christ with their bodies is appalling. I may
disagree with Beeching on several issues in her book, but this is perhaps the
one place I am unable to respect her. She is too smart for this to be a slip of
the pen. She is lumping issues together that should be dealt with separately and
thoughtfully.
Celibacy
Even though the church is filled
with countless unwed, celibate, heterosexual Christians, Beeching feels it is
not right to call people with SSA to this same standard of celibacy. She responds
to this argument in the book saying, ‘If
you’re a straight Christian… that still gives you the hope of finding a person
of the opposite sex, a life partner, and committing to them. But if a Christian
gay person can’t have sex outside of that heterosexual paradigm, there’s no
hope for them to have a life partner ever.’
Yes, some heterosexuals may have
the hope of getting married and having sex. But some never actually do―even
though they badly want to. Some live their lives in self-pity. Some go out and have sex outside of marriage thinking it will satisfy them. Still others, realise
that love and intimacy need not be sexual―and go on to find fulfilling spiritual
relationships with brothers and sisters in Christ.
Beeching argues forcefully that
being gay and called to celibacy is entirely different from being a heterosexual
who is unable to find a partner and who needs to ‘control their lusts’. But I found her line of argumentation unconvincing
here. (If you wish to follow her logic, you can find these arguments at Kindle
location 2966―or about ¾ through the book)
Beeching argues that the call to
celibacy is ‘the equivalent of the red
tape loaded on the early gentiles―above and beyond what God required and
leading to loneliness and isolation rather than abundant life.’ Here I believe
Beeching is putting far too much confidence in romantic and sexual
relationships as a cure for isolation and loneliness. Sexual love is not the highest
form of human love. Jesus, our role model, was celibate and lived a fully human
life. Paul was single, and he was thankful for it. One wonders if Beeching is subconsciously
more influenced by Freud here than on what the New Testament actually teaches
about the celibate life.
We can live without sex. We can’t
live with without intimacy. It is fuzzy reasoning that conflates the two.
Undivided
Of the title, Undivided, she writes: ‘Being undivided meant accepting both my
faith and my sexuality.’
But this raises the all-important
question that undergirds so much of the wider discussion: did Christ come to
affirm us in our entirety, or did He come to change us and separate us from ourselves?
What are we to make of it when we
read that Christ came with a sword that separates ‘spirit and soul asunder’? Or
that he holds a winnowing fork with which to ‘separate the wheat from the chaff’? Christ says ‘deny yourself, take up your cross, and
follow me’. Don’t we need renounce some parts of ourselves in order to
embrace Him? This isn’t about denying our broken condition or hiding the truth of how we feel. It’s about letting Him be our master.
Beeching writes ‘Its about finally feeling comfortable in our
own skin.’ But is this really the Gospel? To feel comfortable? Is it to be affirmed just as we are? Or, is it to be transformed into something new? We do not deny the
existence of our orientation (in the broadest sense of the term we all have an orientation
towards sin), but we do deny that we will make such orientations our master. We
cannot serve both God and our sexual desires. We do not keep our sexual desires in secret denial or anxiety. But we do not have to obey them either.
My Appeal
Beeching, I’ve never met you, but
you seem to be a likeable person and we are the same age. As a trans-Atlantic, Earl Grey sipping,
theologically minded introvert myself, I would love to meet you some day. I
would want to listen―and then probably seek to persuade you as you have sought
to persuade so many through your book.
I don’t know if you’ll ever read this
review. But, if you do, my thoughts of you centre on what you wrote about
yourself in chapter four, that you’re ‘never
one to go half measure.’ How true! You've swung from one extreme
to the other. You’ve gone from being part of a strict, Pentecostal church
environment into the throes of gay activism. Does the idea of being a celibate
Christian who is open about her same-sex desires seem too middle of the road
for you? May we both embrace the hermeneutical humility you call the church too.
[For those who desire a complimentary
memoir to read alongside Beeching’s book, I would recommend that of my friend,
David Bennett, who took the opposite journey. He went from living as a gay
activist to being, as he describes himself, ‘a gay, celibate Christian’
Evangelist. His book is also on Amazon HERE
]
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Great review and insight. A bit soft on calling her a "misleading teacher." She is a false teacher, a heretic, a denier of Scripture and a blasphemer. Enough to get her cast into the lake of fire. May she come to repentance and true faith, before it is too late. May her influence fall to the ground and may discernment increase in the body of Christ to warn others of such false teachers. A great review my friend. Job well done.
ReplyDeleteYour own response however perfectly illustrates what Vicky has been having to deal with, being called a heritic, being cast into the lake of fire etc. Where is the love of Christ evident in your own response? Why is it so many Bible believing Christians (& I am one) seem to be so quick to judge and condemn? Didn't Jesus have something to say about this?
DeleteBy all means engage in the debate like the reviewer of Vicky's book has done, but please do it in love and Christian charity. Vicky is after all our Christian sister, even if you do not agree with the stance she has taken.
DeleteHaving read the book, I have come to very different conclusions than you.
ReplyDeleteThere is a very big difference between the examples of "trolling" you posted, and the rape and death threats Vicky has documented in her book.
There is also a big difference between Christ separating us from ourselves, and suicidal thoughts, depression and anxiety of the nature Vicky talks about in her book. Not to mention the other illnesses she has experienced as a result. Some have called that "God's judgement", but it was only ever those people doing all the judging (see, for example, samthemacman's comment above)
I believe it is important to acknowledge the lived experience that is described in Vicky's book in addition to (theo)logical arguments. Even if you think she provides no new insights on the argument front , the personal experience she shared through this book should provide plenty of cause to re-examine more broadly how we and churches respond to these topics.
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